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A Mother/Daughter Day

November 4, 2014
By Phyllis Sigal - OV Parent Design Editor , OVParent

I needed a day - a day of just my nearly nine-month-pregnant daughter and me. A mother/daughter day before they all become mother/daughter/granddaughter days.

I needed to tell her a few things, too.

Mamma said there'll be days like these ... is a line from a song that comes to mind.

It may not be all roses all the time when that baby girl comes.

I wanted her to know she may feel some baby blues. I know I did. Of course, she is not me, but if those baby blues continue, call me. Or someone.

I wanted her to know that those tough things - interruped sleep, those really messy diapers, hormones, whatever is the aggravation du jour - it's all for a finite period. Before you know it, you're on to something else. And getting a good night sleep. (Well, until that daughter of hers is a teenager, and then that interrupted sleep starts all over.)

I wanted her to know that sometimes new moms and dads have issues. Perhaps because everyone is tired.

Her response to my cautionary advice?

"Mom," she said, "I consider myself an optimist."

Not to jinx herself, but she said, "I've never drawn the short straw."

I felt a little bad - I didn't want to bring her down. I only wanted to inject a little dose of reality.

But I had forgotten to mention what incredible joy and happiness was about to come her way. How she'll never imagine the love that will fill her heart. How that little girl will make her so proud for years to come - just as mine has made me.

So I slept on what I had told her?- and what I hadn't told her - and in the middle of the night, a whole new crop of things came to mind.

I wanted her to know that she will be one great mom. She's got all the tools - a good heart, a happy marriage, strong faith, a wonderful support system of friends and family. She's smart.?She's informed. She's read a lot of books on parenting.

And, most of all, I needed to tell her that that little girl of hers is one lucky little girl.

And I can't wait to meet her.

- Phyllis R. Sigal is design editor at The Intelligencer and Wheeling News-Register and designer of Ohio Valley Parent. She is the mom of Amanda, 28, and Leland, 26, and mother-in-law of Christopher, 29. And, soon-to-be grandmother to Baby Seidler.

 
 

 

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